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valylynn:

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Rose-boo you whore.

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iwasbornintothelabyrinth:

beautiful <3

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sororitysugar:

MY VIEW ~ TFM & TSM:

My name is Haley and I attend the University of Cincinnati. Recently, we held a Greek Leadership Conference in which we brought in some of the nations brightest and best speakers to talk to our Greek leaders about issues like social media, hazing, dynamic recruitment, and more. So much stuck with me from what I’ve learned at this Conference, that I feel compelled to share my knowledge with other greeks who will not get the opportunity to hear what I have heard. After listening to Cori Wallace (the most compelling speaker ever- a DG and marketing consultant for Tri-Sigma), I have found a new attitude regarding many of the things I have once laughed at or agreed with.

I will begin this post by saying - I enjoy TFM and TSM as much as the next person, so I’m not here to just rip on the users and visitors of the site. But, as long as the Greek community continues to promote this perception of Greek life - we are never going to make the positive impact that we stand for. What does it say about us as a community to be posting and re-posting material from the TFM/TSM site? We give others the attention and information they need to demean Greek life.

Whether we realize it or not, that’s the purpose of the site… TFM is an affirmation of the most immature version of what it means to be Greek. TFM wants us to be white, wealthy, privileged, arrogant, and drunk. Last time I checked, none of those things are what any of our organizations stand for. Yeah, I’ve personally got my Ralph Lauren button up, my Lilly dress and pearl earrings - but that’s not all I’m about. Anyone can dress preppy, but not just anyone can wear my letters.

What is the point of wearing your letters if you are going to connect with the negative aspects of Greek life by re-posting TFM’s or TSM’s? What is cool or “fratastic” about any of these posts?: “Convincing a freshman to give up her virginity for Lent. TFM”, “Pre-gamed the house philanthropy event so hard I apparently hit on a girl with Down syndrome. TFM”, “Skipping a whole day of classes because you’re having a bad hair day. TSM”, or “If you think I’m a bitch, then you’re right. TSM”. There’s nothing attractive or commendable about any of these quotes, and those are just four examples amongst thousands. 

Anyone can make a frat joke. But not everyone can step up to challenge these stereotypes as a true fraternity man or woman.  As a Greek community, we can affirm the joke or we can challenge people’s assumptions. We need to accept people with or without the Lilly and pearls, croakies and koozies, because that is not what truly defines us. Instead, it’s the life-long friends, the selfless acts of charity exhibited through our philanthropy events, the fearless leadership roles we earn on campus which defines who we are. Also, the countless hours of studying that leads to grades higher than our schools’ average. The deep-rooted senses of ritual, tradition, legacy, and family we wholeheartedly embrace.

Hopefully some people will now think twice before re-tweeting the TFM that popped up in their feed today. Change starts with you and me!

submitted by: haleyerinmason

edited by: sorority sugar

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breaks my heart every time.

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